Fearless in Love

“Hard To Get” is for the fearless, because

the idea of “Hard to Get” is controversial.

It’s also a well-understood fact of simple

human nature.

Some people hear this phrase and automatically

think it means being “manipulative” – resorting

to “tricks” to “get a man.”

First – who says you need to “get a man”?

You don’t. You need to “get” yourself -

and know that if a man “gets” you, then

he’s a lucky bloke indeed.

Easy equals desperate. Easy equals not waiting

for what is special. Easy means not being okay

with being on your own.

Some women say, “With a really great man, I

shouldn’t need to play games.”

We say, “Great men love a challenge. When they’re

married to you, they’ll cherish you all the more

because you were hard to get.”

Truer words were never spoken.

Sometimes, a woman knows that the way she came

across – in a first meeting – with a guy she liked

WAS NOT the way she really wanted – and was not the

true, confident HER. Maybe out of nerves, she came

across a little needy or insecure. Only the slightest

fine-tuning could have made a big difference.

Some women say, “I don’t have the energy to work on

how I come across to men.”

We say, “Most worthwhile things take energy and

effort. The results are worth it.”

Some MEN say, “I don’t want a woman who plays

games.”

We say, “Yeah, right. What men think they want

and what they really want are usually two different

things! It’s just that some women are “hard to get”

for them – naturally.

Some women say, “I just don’t like the whole idea of

playing hard to get.”

We say, “Consider the alternative. It’s not a pretty p

icture. Not being hard to get means that you get to

Emotional First Base long before he does. When he

realizes that you are there before him – he will

start backing away from you. This causes a lot

of broken hearts.”

Hard To Get means you are in control – and you’re

a lot more likely to get the man you want and to

have a better relationship with him in the long run.

Excerpt from Mimi Tanner

How To Regain a Man’s Interest from Relationship

Have you ever made a huge mistake with a man that

you wanted SO much to erase? If so, you are not

alone.

“Don’t Say ‘I Love You’ First…and How To Recover If You Did”

Yes, Even Your Love Life Requires Discipline!

There is one way to get rid of a guy fast – even a great guy -

when you least want to get rid of him. So let’s make sure this

does not happen to us.

Don’t be the first one to say “I love you.”

This is a controversial topic, and I certainly understand both

sides of the coin. Often people like to argue about things in

theory which are completely different in real life, and this

topic can be one of them. No one likes the idea of telling a

woman that she should, in principle, not be the one to say “I

love you” first in a relationship with a man.

However, for many very good reasons, this guideline has stood

the test of time – for most situations.

Of course I don’t want you to feel that you have to hold your

feelings in or be afraid of expressing them.

However – we are trying to put the odds in our favor, and

protect ourselves from the kind of good impulses that

unfortunately can cause a man to withdraw from us.

Yes, sometimes we do have to exercise discipline and restraint

in life to get what we want. This is true when it comes to

everything from getting good grades in school to having a fit

body to driving a car. We have to follow guidelines and we

can’t always do what we feel like doing, can we?

You can recover from this “mistake,” and I will tell you

exactly how to do that – but let’s try not to make that

mistake in the first place.

Why He Needs to Say “I Love You” First

Here is what NOT to do if you want to keep the interest of a

man who has not yet made a commitment to you: in general,

the woman should not be the first one to say “I love you”!

You may be feeling this love for him; your love may be true;

and it may also be true that he loves you, too. But until HE

says these words to you, he is not ready for this huge step

forward in your relationship.

As we all know, saying “I love you” is a major milestone in

any romantic relationship. To a woman, it is a time for

rejoicing. However, if a man is not ready for this, all he

will be feeling is pressure when he hears you say those words,

EVEN IF HE IS FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOU.

Unfortunately, even if he IS in that delicious “falling in

love” process, your saying “I love you” first can be like a

huge “wake up call” for him. It may cause him to suddenly

realize that things are getting VERY serious.

End of excerpt from Mimi Tanner

Men Love Women Who Love Men

Are you a woman who truly loves men? So many

women seem to miss this all-important key to

a happy love life.

To love men is to delight in their company,

whether you have a romantic relationship

with them or not.

Do you genuinely delight in men, or does

the thought of men only bring to mind

your romantic troubles?

A woman who truly loves men is a special

kind of woman.

You can spot her by the way she interacts

with men. She enjoys the company of men -

even in casual conversation. She never

forgets that a man is a man.

Unfortunately, this kind of woman is often

instinctively disliked by the women who

don’t love men in the same way.

They consider her a threat because she

doesn’t play by their rules. She doesn’t

agree to underplay her feminine charm as

they all seem to want her to! And they

definitely don’t like that. Sad, isn’t it?

But many people reading this have

experienced this themselves!

It seems like many women decide at an early

age to stop looking like women – it was just

too much trouble anyway, they seem to say.

They were looking forward to getting married

so they could retire from all that hassle.

I think that’s a shame. A woman can be beautiful

and appealing and feminine at any age!

Some women maintain – “that feminine stuff -

that’s just not me.” Well, we all have to be

true to ourselves. But some women have

short-changed themselves and their men

by avoiding showing that they are womanly.

Somewhere along the line they were discouraged

from being appealing and the idea stayed with

them.

There’s an often repeated idea that women

tend to dress for other women than for men.

Hopefully, you’re dressing to please

yourself, but let’s face it – what we wear

does show both our regard for other people,

and tells the world how we want to be

perceived.

Does what you wear play up the fact that

you’re a woman, or is it something that a

man could wear just as easily as a woman?

The answer to that will tell you a lot about

where you stand with regard to truly loving

men – and reveling in your womanhood. (And

this does not require wearing a super-short

skirt or showing half a foot of cleavage!)

Some women constantly gripe about their lack

of success with men, but they are constantly

saying negative things – to men and women both.

They are looking for someone to blame instead

of looking for solutions.

It’s very possible to love men even if you have

had some very bad experiences with men in the past.

You can decide to blame all men for the bad

experiences you’ve had with some. You can

decide to make the good guys pay for the

mistakes of the bad guys in your past.

But all that does is make more sadness and

more distance from the love you truly desire!

Women who love men like being near men, talking

with men, hearing them laugh, hearing their views,

and being in male company.

Many of us were raised with the idea that we should

minimize the differences between the sexes rather

than celebrate it. Women who truly love men will

always recognize and celebrate the difference when

they talk to and spend time with a man. Men and

women are both all the happier as a result.

End of excerpt from Mimi Tanner

How To Know If He’s A Loser Or A Keeper

One of the things that women have to contend with in dating is the

risk of having a “great guy” DISAPPEAR from your life after going

to bed with you. There’s always the possibility of going out with

someone who seems so awesome at the beginning, only to undergo a

shocking character transformation later on.

And chances are, you’ve probably experienced this yourself. It

wouldn’t rare for most girls to be disappointed (or even appalled)

when their guy doesn’t live up to the hype.

That really puts us in a pickle, doesn’t it? Constantly wondering

if the man you’re going out with is a psycho in nice guy’s clothing

does nothing for your peace of mind.

After all, dating and/or getting into a relationship with someone

is a considerable emotional investment. Sure, getting hurt comes

with the territory, but there’s certainly nothing wrong about

saving yourself unnecessary grief.

There’s a difference between going through the normal relationship

issues with a quality man (like clashes of opinion and such), and

falling for a guy who’ll treat you like dirt a few months down the

road.

I’m sure you don’t want the latter to happen to you, so today let’s

cover some things to watch out for in a guy. In a nutshell,

telltale signs will emerge as early as the first few dates, and

it’s up to you to look out for the following:

#1: His level of respect for you and towards others

Sometimes, we can get so blinded by our “love goggles” or over

eagerness that certain red flags (such as a questionable amount of

respect) slip past us. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t enjoy the

date, but you do need to watch out for little indicators of how he

treats you and other people.

Here are a couple of things to consider: first, does he enjoy

making fun of the things that are obviously important to you? It’s

one thing for a guy to poke harmless fun at your “Love Jams” CD

collection, and another for him to tell you it’s “for pathetic,

sappy losers”.

Second, observe how he talks to people involved in customer

service, such as the staff at the restaurant you’re eating at or

the cashier working at the popcorn stand in the movie theater.

Does he excessively berate them for not serving his café latte

according to his micro-specifications? Or does he POLITELY point

out little slip-ups with a lot of words like “please” and “thanks”

on the side?

Even if his attitude towards other folks doesn’t directly involve

you, it gives you a glimpse of how he’ll act in the relationship

later on.

#2: How thoughtful is he?

Not counting obsessive-compulsiveness, a guy who has the

consideration for some vital things is an indication of his

character.

This includes his attention to detail – does he care enough to

brush his teeth, shine his shoes, iron his clothes and keep his car

in good working order? Don’t feel that you’re being mean or

overcritical for thinking about these things.

These are merely BASIC aspects, and you’re not being harsh by

taking them into account. A guy wouldn’t ask his dreamgirl to walk

down the altar if he knew his bride-to-be was going to spend the

rest of the marriage looking like something the cat dragged in.

So it’s only fair to expect the same bare necessities from the guys

we date. Notice that I haven’t mentioned anything about looks,

because it’s not about that.

Your guy doesn’t have to look like he stole Brad Pitt’s DNA, but he

*does* have to be thoughtful enough by being neat and presentable

on a date.

Thoughtfulness also extends to things like being a good listener,

which shows that he really cares about what you have to say. It’s

a good sign when he displays interest by asking questions about

your stories and so on.

Let’s not forget gentlemanly stuff like guiding you to your seat or

opening doors for you. Political correctness aside, being treated

like a lady tips you off about his character.

While you’re fully capable of taking care of yourself, is he

willing to inconvenience himself from time to time for your sake?

Look out for signs that confirm or refute this.

Oh, and there’s the matter of picking up the tab. Sure, eventually

you’re going to split future expenses (like rent or house payments

if you get that far), but his WILLINGNESS to shoulder dinner costs

is a hint of his capacity as a provider.

#3: He pays attention to your positive aspects

When you put effort into looking your best and he complements you

for that, it feels great. But what about your other traits, such as

a strong independent streak or your creativity?

There’s something special about a guy who can appreciate the things

about you that go beyond physicality. If he has the ability to

GENUINELY (not patronizingly) value your hobbies, interests, and

other stuff you hold dear, then you may have a winner!

As long as he VALUES you in the same regard as you do for yourself,

then your guy is on the right track.

#4: He has a generally positive outlook

Not to get all mystical or new age-y on you, but a person’s energy

can either bring you up or down.

I’m sure you’ve met your fair share of upbeat as well as gloomy

people. Notice how their energy affects your own disposition.

When the peppy attendant at the bookstore is just oozing with

delight to help you pick out a good read, it’s not hard for your

mood to follow suit. Similarly, your co-worker’s sob story about

the umpteenth fight she had with her boyfriend is going to bring

down your day.

It also works the same way with a potential boyfriend. Does his

broad view of things lean towards the positive side, or does he

only see the world in dull shades of depressing gray?

Watch out for a guy that likes to get into long rants. It doesn’t

bode well for someone who likes whining about his work or spends

lots of time putting down a former lover or an annoying colleague.

Think about how things might turn out if you got into a

relationship with such a guy. If he’s consistently displayed this

kind of negative behavior throughout your last few dates, maybe

it’s time to move on.

On the other hand, keep an eye on a date that can at least muster a

sense of humor and doesn’t take things too seriously.

As an aside, let this also be a friendly reminder of your own

attitude. After all, you form HALF of the equation here, so be

mindful of how you conduct yourself during a date!

#5: He has enough common ground to share with you

While opposites attract, he should be able to meet you HALFWAY at

minimum. At the very least, you should be able to relate to a

guy’s general views, values and lifestyle on some level.

More importantly, there has to be that certain dynamic that allows

you both to exchange new ideas with each other. It’s hard to pin

it down really, but sooner or later you’ll develop a feel of your

compatibility in general – DON’T ignore this.

#6: Fill in your own criteria here

I’m sure you have a personal set of standards, but remember to keep

it PRACTICAL. What I usually suggest to my friends is to clarify

their criteria by making a LIST of things you want in a guy.

Don’t put too much thought into the first draft; write down as many

traits or qualities that you think your dream guy needs to have.

Then, go over this version and think hard about whether the

original criteria you listed are absolutely essential.

Chances are you can further REFINE or even DROP certain traits from

your list.

For instance, does Mr. Right REALLY need to have a height of 6’5″,

or would you just be as happy with someone a bit below that mark?

Maybe the quality of your relationship wouldn’t be THAT affected if

your suitor wasn’t as a hardcore fan of Harry Potter as you are.

Give yourself the chance to trim down the fat until you’ve come up

with a list that’s realistic but doesn’t compromise your core

principles or values. However, it doesn’t have to be a final

version from that point on, either.

Be flexible enough to amend your list because the changing

circumstances in your life could influence what you want in a man

in the future.

In the end however, it’s your gut feeling that will truly tell you

if he’s worth keeping or ditching. Though the first couple of

dates with a given guy may not be movie-perfect, there could be an

“x-factor” which could justify another chance.

Of course, we’re not aiming for absolute perfection here, only

developing a good idea of whether his strengths outshine his flaws.

Just keep the basic prerequisites in mind to help GUIDE your

higher judgment.

What really matters is that you learn to build up a general

AWARENESS (but NOT a suspicious mindset) of the signs that are

already there. It’s just a matter of getting used to keeping your

eyes open, but relaxed enough to enjoy dating.

Excerpt from Rachel Rider

How to Be Irresistible to Men team

(Relationships.com)

How to Tell Your Ex Boy Friend!

When a relationship ends, I bet all your
friends and family tell you to “just get over it”.
Or maybe they use that old platitude, “there are
plenty more fish in the sea”.

What they don’t seem to get is that you don’t
want just ANY fish. You want THAT PARTICULAR fish.
And you’re prepared to do just about anything to
get him or her back again.

You know something? The end of a relationship
isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can be looked at
as an opportunity. A GIFT, even. You’re being
given the opportunity to fix your relationship -
to figure out what went wrong, and how to never,
ever let it happen again.

You can use this opportunity to make things
BETTER than they ever were before. And when you’ve
dealt with all the emotions and done all the work
you need to, then it’s time to get your lover
back.

I can tell you exactly how to do this. You CAN
win back the love of your ex – and I can tell you
exactly how to do so. The book is called “2nd
Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex” and
it’s a practical how-to guide to getting your
lover back. That means that I don’t just tell you
how to THINK about the situation you’re in – I
tell you precisely what to do to win back the love
of your ex.

If you’re interested in healing your
relationship pain, understanding WHY the two of
you broke up, and welcoming your ex back into your
life, then check out the book here:

https://www.meetyoursweet.com/2ndchance/women/index.php.

When a relationship ends, it feels as though
the world’s been turned upside down. Suddenly,
everything that is familiar and precious has
vanished. All that’s left is the cold, insensitive
world.

It’s scary, it’s horrible … and it’s your new
reality.

With a head full of confusion and a heart full
of pain, the one question on your mind is: “How
can I fix this situation RIGHT NOW?”

During the initial shock and confusion of a
break-up, it’s common for the one left behind to
shelve logic and common sense, and focus instead
on the emotional side of things. Like pain. Anger.
Hurt. Grief. Betrayal. Shock.

And with this whirling inferno of negative
emotions comes another strong reaction: denial.

You want to know how to get your ex back and
stop the pain of this break up. Preferably, as
soon as possible. It hurts way, way too much to
allow this situation to continue for one SECOND
longer than it absolutely has to.

There’s no time to consider whether or not the
end of the relationship might actually be a good
thing in the long run. You’re in far too much pain
to think about what it was that made your partner
so unhappy that they chose to end the relationship
rather than try to fix things.

Grief is the most painful of all emotions. And
when you’re in its grip, all that matters is
stopping the pain. NOW.

As far as you can see, the easiest way to stop
the pain of a break-up is to fix the relationship
- to get your lover back, and get rid of this
awful, agonizing, ever-present sorrow.

Unfortunately, fixing a broken relationship is
not all that easy. As Greg Behrendt and Amira
Ruotola-Behrendt, authors of “It’s Called A Breakup Because
It’s Broken” say, relationships end for a reason.
Even if YOU feel like the relationship was the
most perfect relationship in the history of the
world, IT CLEARLY WASN’T.

Why not?

Because, for one person in that relationship-
that’s 50% of the partnership – things were bad
enough for them to end it.

Not try to fix it. Not “take a break”. But
actually consider what you have to offer them,
decide against it, and cut their losses now.

Today, we’re going to take a look at how to
cope with the confusion, anxiety, and grief that
ensue when a relationship ends. To illustrate,
I’ve included a question from one of our readers -
a question that, with slight variations, has to be
one of THE MOST COMMON questions of all when
dealing with a relationship break-up.

This one’s from Natalie, and she writes:

Dear Mirabelle,

I think I screwed up … and I need some help. A
great relationship that I have just been in for
the past three years has recently ended. He was
the one who ended it not me.

We have been apart for a month now and we still
stay in touch … he says he wants us to be friends.

A couple of times we’ve slept together since the breakup
and he says that although he still really cares about me,
that it was just sex and he doesn’t want us to get back
together.

Here is my question Mia: are we going to
get back together? Surely because he wants to be
friends and we are still sleeping together, that
means there is a chance and that I am still in his
heart as he is in mine? Do you think that he still
thinks about me as a potential girlfriend?

Our relationship was so great, all I want is to get
him back again, and I think that because he is
still thinking about me that this must be
possible.

Please tell me what to do to get our relationship
back on track. And thank you very much for all your other
help in books newsletters etc, it is very helpful to me.

Yours, Natalie

Woah, Natalie!

Slow down here a moment. What you need to do is
take a deep breath and calm down.

Just from the few lines that you’ve written in to me,
I can tell you several things that are very clear to an
objective observer:

1. He does NOT still love you, and he does NOT
think of you as a potential girlfriend. He doesn’t
even think of you as a friend, let alone potential
girlfriend material.

2. He does still think about you, but this
doesn’t necessarily mean anything. It just means
that you’re entering his headspace now and again.

3. You are too sad from the ending of the
relationship to make good decisions for yourself
right now. You need to ask someone close to you
for some advice and ongoing support as you
extricate yourself from this emotional mess.

Allow me to clarify each of these points.

Point 1: How can I tell that he does not still
love you? Well, firstly because he says so.
Secondly, because of the way he’s treating you. He
might be saying that he would like the two of you
to be friends – but pay attention to his ACTIONS,
not his WORDS.

Is he behaving how a true friend would? No. He
is not. He’s causing you pain and confusion, and
is allowing you to hope that the two of you will
mend your broken relationship. That’s not
friendship, that’s plain selfishness.

Even putting aside the fact that the two of you
are still sleeping together every now and then,
there is NO WAY that the relationship you have
right now could be termed a “friendship” by
ANYONE’S measures.

A friendship is all about trust, respect, and
mutual PLATONIC enjoyment of one another’s
company. Friends are understanding, generous, and
kind to one another.

A friendship does not inflict pain on either of
the people involved in it.

By these measures alone, the truth is that
NEITHER of you are prepared to be friends.

As for your ex, I’m sorry to say that he is
using you at the moment. He’s using you as a
“safety measure” – he knows that he made the right
decision for himself by choosing to end the
relationship, but he enjoys the safety-net of
having you there in the background.

Having you around means that he doesn’t ever
have to fear being truly alone. After all, if
things don’t work out for him as a single man, or
with any other girlfriends he might be keeping on
the side, he knows that he could always try going
back to you again for some quick sex, affection,
or an ego-boost.

And as for you yourself: you are clearly not
ready for a friendship with your ex, either.
You’re using the opportunity that this
“friendship” presents to keep your ex in your life
at any cost. You’re not wanting to be true
friends. You are merely using the term
“friendship” to hide behind as you try to figure
out a way to get the two of you back together
again.

This will only cause you pain in the long run,
because it’s allowing you to fool yourself that
the relationship is not really “over” – when, in
fact, it IS.

It’s confusing when you have to differentiate
someone’s INTENTIONS from their ACTIONS.

For example, when your ex tells you that he
still cares about you and wants to be your friend,
but then complicates matters by sleeping with you
and explaining that he doesn’t love you any more,
it is very hard on you.

It’s difficult for someone who is so
emotionally involved in the situation to see
things clearly, which is why I’m so glad you’ve
written in and asked for an objective opinion.

Point 2: Yes, he still thinks about you.
Unfortunately, this doesn’t mean that he wants to
get back together with you – or even that he
particularly cares for your welfare or happiness.

Everyone thinks about exes from time to time.
Depending on the circumstances of the breakup,
they might think of an ex with fondness,
bitterness, sadness, or even rage – but none of
these things mean that the two of you will get
back together.

In your case, he’s thinking of you for the
simple fact that you were a major part of his life
for a long time. It would be very difficult for
him to NOT think of you every now and then. It
doesn’t mean he still loves you, and it doesn’t
mean that he wants to get back together with you.

Point 3: You’re not in a good place emotionally
right now. It’s difficult for you to disengage
your emotions enough to understand what you need
to do to preserve your own best interests here.

If you were seeing things clearly, you’d see
what doubtless all your friends and family members
can see: that your ex has NO intention of getting
back together with you.

That he’s simply using you as the “soft option”
until someone better comes along.

That staying in touch with him is actually
HARMING YOU, and is prolonging the grieving
process.

Fact: you need to make a clean break with your
old relationship. This means no contact of any
sort with your ex (and yes, text messages, email,
and voicemail all count as contact.)

I know that this will be painful for you. The
end of a cherished relationship is always a bloody
thing, even when that ending is for the best. You
will have to be strong.

Here’s a fact that will help: by making a clean
break, you’re actually choosing the option that’s
the LEAST painful in the long run.

Yes, it will hurt more RIGHT NOW than if you
were to continue to see him, and to sporadically
do things that give you false hope (like sleeping
with him).

But eking out that contact, is actually making
the break-up itself a lot more drawn-out and
painful than it needs to be. It’s putting off the
day when you’ll be able to say to yourself, “I’m
over him”. It’s sacrificing your long-term
happiness, simply in order to delay the evil day
of acceptance a little bit longer.

It’s like ripping off a Band-Aid: a quick rip,
an “ouch”, and then …. nothing but healthy,
healed, smooth flesh underneath.

You need to write your ex an email or a letter
and explain to him that you’ve made a decision to
cease all contact from here on. Explain that
you’ve made this decision because you’re looking
out for your own best interests, and that it’s
simply too difficult to come to terms with the end
of the relationship when you’re still hanging out
- even if it’s only “as friends”.

Ask that he respects your wishes, and – as a
nice touch – wish him all the best for his future.

Then sign off, send it, and congratulate
yourself. You’ve just taken the first step towards
assuming emotional responsibility for yourself and
your own life – and you’ve made yourself available
for when REAL happiness comes knocking!

And rest assured, it will. Despite the pain,
despite the anguish and agony you’re enduring
right now, there will come a moment when you
realize you’ve come through the worst. Light,
love, and hope will re-enter your life. You will
come through this experience stronger and better
than you were before. You’ll have learned valuable
life lessons, and you’ll be truly ready to welcome
someone who deserves you, and all you have to
offer, into your life.

Breakups are painful. It’s all too easy to
blame yourself, to assume culpability where you
shouldn’t, and to believe yourself to be at fault
- when actually, you were not.

To make sure you stay on the right track and
don’t allow the uncertainty and confusion of a
breakup to damage your ability to learn and grow
from the experience, keep your confidence and
happiness levels sky-high. Arm yourself with the
right information at a time when you need it the most

Excerpt from Mirabelle Summers

Understanding What Went Wrong

When a breakup happens, many women start doing

one thing – thinking, and thinking some more.

They try to figure out why the breakup happened.

Women do not need

to do this – that their first effort should NOT

be to try to figure out why a breakup happened.

Focus on getting back together, and

that WHEN you are back together, that will be the

time to address the cause of the breakup.

Surprised to hear that?

“Dealing with exactly why the breakup occurred isn’t

necessary until the relationship is established again,

and the man feels safe enough to share and to explore

those feelings/reasons.”

“The Woman

Men Adore” talks to many men and women who are

going through a divorce. He advises that the

first few months after a divorce/breakup are NOT

the time to try and figure out what went wrong.

“The first and most critical step is to allow

yourself time to heal. DON’T isolate yourself.

If you did, it would be impossible for others to

support you. The first 6 months to a year

after a divorce are hard enough, so don’t make it

worse. Force yourself to rise from your sorrow if

you have to. Get out there and spend time around

caring people – now more than ever.”

We may discover that we are always

secretly drawn to men who expose areas in our lives

that we need to work on. “They push your buttons,”

Bob says. “The men you date or marry will expose

your unresolved issue – always.”

Take this example: Susan just got divorced. Her

husband always expressed anger by yelling. This

made her feel out of control. Susan now swears

that she will never again marry a man who yells.

“Within 2 years, Susan meets and marries Jeff. Jeff

never gets angry. Problem solved – right? No. Jeff

gets angry like everyone else, but when he’s angry,

he becomes silent. Susan finds that this silence

brings about the same panic in her that her first

husband’s yelling did,” says Bob.

“Has she made a bad choice with Jeff? No, but she

has to deal with those feelings of being out of

control. The situation forces her to deal with those

feelings. If she blames Jeff for her unhappiness,

she is destined to divorce again.”

“To fully

rise from the pain of a breakup, the final stage

of healing is so simple yet most people miss it:

“Forgive yourself, and forgive your ex. Forgive

yourself for all the things you could have done.

Forgive your spouse for everything you wish he had

done.

“Make the decision to move on and leave the

past behind, no matter what it is. That is the

final step in emerging from a divorce or breakup.”

From Mimi Tanner

Luha

Special ang luha kay sa smile

kasi ang smile marami kang taong mangitian

Ang luha tutulo lang yan

kapag may isa kang taong

ayaw mong kalimutan.


estoryahe... ^_^

Homework

Boy: alam mo sana naging homework kana lang.

Girl: Bakit naman?

Boy: para araw-araw kitang iuuwi sa bahay namin.

Lupa

    Boy: sana ikaw nalang yung ulan at ako yung lupa.

    Girl: Bakit naman?

    Boy: sa ayaw at sa gusto mo, sa akin kapa rin babagsak..

Side Car

Boy: can you be my sidecar?
Girl: ky ngano nasad?
Boy: single man gud ko..

Cheezy words

    Girl: haha kataw-anan kaayo ning mga cheezy words noh?
    naa pa kay laing mahunahuna-an?

    Boy: Wala na lagi.. ky akong pirmi mahunahuna-an man gud kay IKAW..

Traffic

    Boy: ikaw ba, mura ka og traffic.

    Girl: ug ngano?

    Boy: dli man gud ko maka move on sa imo..

Criminal ka!

Boy: Criminal ka..

Girl: At bakit naman?

Boy: kasi patay na patay ako sayo.

Tulay

    Girl: Anu pangarap mo?

    Boy: Maging isang karpentero

    Girl: Bakit naman?

    Boy: Para gagawa ako ng tulay papunta sa puso mo..




estoryahe... ^_^

Ex mu!

Pag ang
"ex" mu

sa friend mu
npunta

wg ka ng
mgta2ka

ksi san ba
npu2nta ang
"basura"sa

"plastik" diba?

Peru kung sa relative mu
npunta,yun ang tinatawag na

"sagip
kapamilya"

hehe . wa nah....


estoryahe.... ^_^