Fearless in Love

“Hard To Get” is for the fearless, because

the idea of “Hard to Get” is controversial.

It’s also a well-understood fact of simple

human nature.

Some people hear this phrase and automatically

think it means being “manipulative” – resorting

to “tricks” to “get a man.”

First – who says you need to “get a man”?

You don’t. You need to “get” yourself -

and know that if a man “gets” you, then

he’s a lucky bloke indeed.

Easy equals desperate. Easy equals not waiting

for what is special. Easy means not being okay

with being on your own.

Some women say, “With a really great man, I

shouldn’t need to play games.”

We say, “Great men love a challenge. When they’re

married to you, they’ll cherish you all the more

because you were hard to get.”

Truer words were never spoken.

Sometimes, a woman knows that the way she came

across – in a first meeting – with a guy she liked

WAS NOT the way she really wanted – and was not the

true, confident HER. Maybe out of nerves, she came

across a little needy or insecure. Only the slightest

fine-tuning could have made a big difference.

Some women say, “I don’t have the energy to work on

how I come across to men.”

We say, “Most worthwhile things take energy and

effort. The results are worth it.”

Some MEN say, “I don’t want a woman who plays

games.”

We say, “Yeah, right. What men think they want

and what they really want are usually two different

things! It’s just that some women are “hard to get”

for them – naturally.

Some women say, “I just don’t like the whole idea of

playing hard to get.”

We say, “Consider the alternative. It’s not a pretty p

icture. Not being hard to get means that you get to

Emotional First Base long before he does. When he

realizes that you are there before him – he will

start backing away from you. This causes a lot

of broken hearts.”

Hard To Get means you are in control – and you’re

a lot more likely to get the man you want and to

have a better relationship with him in the long run.

Excerpt from Mimi Tanner